5 years ago today, Robert and I stood before our closest family and friends and entered into a covenant relationship that would change, challenge, and strengthen us as individuals and as a couple. We promised our lives to each other in marriage. We wrote our own vows, and as I re-read them I couldn't help but realize that these promises are as important to our marriage today as they were on our first day. And I am excited to share them with you.
I love you. I feel like I’ve loved you for most of my life. I prayed for you and wrote letters to you long before I knew your name. I knew that God was preparing someone incredible for me, so I waited for you. I never imagined that He would bring me someone so loving, compassionate, genuine and strong. I have so much respect for you, and I am often overwhelmed with gratitude that God chose you to be my husband. I love you, and today I make this covenant with you:
I will honor the authority that God has given you as my husband. I believe that God chose us for each other so that we can glorify him together and that we share the responsibility to walk worthy of His calling, but I also believe that He has chosen you to be the head of our household, so I will look to you for leadership as we pursue His will together.
I will never leave you. I know that a lasting marriage does not happen accidentally, so I will strive with you daily to strengthen our love. I believe that the love we receive in marriage is not something we’re entitled to. It’s a precious, gracious gift that we give each other, and I will remind myself to celebrate it.
I will use the strengths that God has given me to encourage you to live confidently for Christ. I will challenge you to seek deeper intimacy in your relationship with our Lord, and I will strive to live in a way that makes you love Him more.
I know that you were created for me, and you bring more love and joy to my life than I ever imagined I would receive, but I also know that you were not created to be my idol. I love you and I respect you, but I will not expect you to fill all of the empty places in my heart. I was created with a need to know the Lord, and I will not use our marriage as a distraction from or as a substitute for my relationship with Jesus Christ. I will humble myself daily in His presence, knowing that the only way I can be the wife you need is to be the disciple that He longs for me to be.
Finally, I give myself to you and you alone. I will love you in every way I know how, and when I reach the end of my own strength, I will renew myself in the presence of the Lord and choose to love you again. I choose you today to be my husband, and I will choose every day to be your loving wife.